Bridesmaids - The Bride's Entourage

Bridesmaids are the friends and closest female relatives of the bride-to-be, who accompany her throughout the wedding ceremony. Some brides, already decide upon their bridesmaids, even before they choose the groom. For others, it is quite a task, whom to select and whom to avoid, from the entire gang of close pals. At times, a bride might be unable to get even a single bridesmaid. Then, the bride's men or a "lad of honor", in lieu of a bridesmaid, is an available option. The bride's brothers or male friends could be the chosen ones, although it would be better to let the groom know about such plans, in advance.

Their Selection

It is great if you have many sisters, sisters-in-law and close friends to select your bridesmaids from. The chore can be made easier by listing their names, and picking up those who are dearest to your heart, your family and other relatives. In other words, your bridesmaids should ideally be your sisters and childhood friends, who have stood by you, through thick and thin. You must not consider your wedding as an opportunity to mend estranged relationships with girlfriends and sisters. There is always time for that later, not now!

Once the selection is done, you need to involve them with your marriage preparations, to add to the spirit of celebration, rather than just expecting their formal attendance. Sometimes, a bridesmaid might think that she is infringing your personal territory. Let her know that her contribution, ideas and participation are much appreciated and looked forward to.

Of course, you would have to check with your sisters and friends whether they would be able to take out time and be there to join for the preparations or not. Also, try and choose bridesmaids who are friends among themselves, so that the enjoyment of wedding festivities multiplies manifold. They would have to be present at the rehearsal dinner, as well as the wedding day. It would be futile to select those who are unable to attend even one of the events.

Their Role

Apart from it being an honor, the bridesmaids have a number of duties also. One among them, would be the chief bridesmaid, known as the maid or matron of honor. She would have to coordinate the work of the rest. The bridesmaids will also organize the hen's night and other pre-wedding celebrations such as the bridal shower and kitchen tea. They will help to dress the bride on her big day as well. Besides taking care of the bride's bouquet and the groom's ring, ushering the guests etc., the bridesmaids have to lend a shoulder to the nervous bride to relieve her anxieties and apprehensions.

Since, the bride has the final say on choosing her bridesmaids; she should use her discretion in selecting her closest ones, and relax, with them pottering around her and pampering her on her big wedding day. A bride is ready once her bridesmaids are ready.